Which is easier to spot during the dating phase, a male domestic abuser or a female emotional abuser?

10 Responses to “Which is easier to spot during the dating phase, a male domestic abuser or a female emotional abuser?”

1. Cassius on November 16th, 2008 4:02 am

   The female since she doesnt have to pull punches in public.

2. Bunny Boiler on November 17th, 2008 3:32 am

   A domestic abuser, man or woman, is worse. Because it means someone is living their life in fear, and could get injured or killed. You get both male and female emotional and physical abusers.

3. Rico Taco on November 17th, 2008 2:19 pm

   All females are emotional abusers… soooo

4. Kimberlee Ann B on November 19th, 2008 6:23 am

   Both. You must keep your eyes wide open. Don’t go there looking for what you want but what you have right in front of you and you will see all there is to see, there are always signs, which we choose to ignore because our hopes are up so high.

5. shello on November 22nd, 2008 11:33 am

   I would say a female emotional abuser, as she will start sooner than a domestic abuser generally. With her words and actions of manipulation. A male domestic abuser is going to want to lure you in be on his best behavior to get you in to a domestic relationship first. But neither can be detected on looks.

6. Mama oykrasavitsa on November 23rd, 2008 10:31 am

   Female emotional abuser for sure.

7. Johno on November 25th, 2008 4:46 am

   The male females will mess your head up over long time.

8. Derek on November 25th, 2008 8:03 pm

   They are both really easy to spot man.

9. Rainbow on November 26th, 2008 7:05 am

   You just don’t give up with these negative questions, do you? Don’t assume that only men physically abuse, and only women emotionally abuse.

   Domestic abusers, male or female, do not start out that way. They don’t let their guard down until they know you are in their back pocket.

   Emotional abusers, male or female, start out with passive manipulation, then spiral downward from there.

10. [Rei] on November 28th, 2008 11:20 pm

    The gender is irrelevant. Each situation would be different, so I can only speak from what I’ve personally observed.

    Typically though, it’s the emotional abuser that you can see first. I find in case studies, and through relationships of those around me, the domestic abuser’s true ways come forth later in the relationship. The emotional abuser tends to start letting little things slip here & there from the get go.

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